One thing I have trouble adjusting to is hate mail from readers. It always shocks me when someone goes out of their way to be hostile. I try to tell myself that it's not personal. That somehow my book pushed one of their hot buttons and that I really can't control their reactions. The bad thing is, I start worrying about ways to try and please everyone and that's a trecherous road for any writer to travel because then you end up writing bland, lifeless books so as not to rock boats.
I also try to remind myself that only one out of a hundred letters are hateful, but guess which letter I remember? Not the 99% saying how much they love my books. No, it's that one percent that stick in my brain. But we all encounter people like that in life, don't we? The folks who are so damaged that all they can do is lash out at others in anger.
How do you react when someone heaps unwarranted and unsolicited criticism on you? Do you have any tips or tricks for shaking it off?